You do what to your friends?

Is it sad or funny that so much material in this blog was ripped from old Sex and the City episodes? Even the title of the whole blog is basically pilfered from Berger's all too astute comment on men's (and women too) dating habits. I think it's because so many of the terms used in the show are actual legit terms that us chicks sit around the brunch table gabbing about. For instance, my favorite term that I actually did use before I heard it on Sex and the City is "The Fuck Buddy." I have 2 of them ("Wait, you can't have 2!") ah but I can. See one of them I don't actually have sex with. I'm getting ahead of myself...


Fuck buddy #1, Peter, a musician. I only hear from him when he has a show or he's feeling...antsy. The sex is consistant, not knock your sox off. He smokes, I would never date a smoker...ewey.


#2, Jason is a born again Virign (I shit you not). He had lots of sex in high school but I guess he just figured, this is not for me and just stopped. He and I, unlike Peter and I run in very similar circles so we actually see each other outside of our little encounters. By definition, Jason is not really my fuck buddy but I'm letting it slide for the purpose of being able to say I have 2. Jason is really more of my friend that I make out with, a lot. We breifly dated back in college but then he dumped me when he realized that he might be in love with his best friend (incidentally, she had no interest in him as more than friends and went on to date my best friend at the time). Before the Lorax came around, Jason was probably the only guy who has successfully broken my all too resilient heart.


So I often wonder, is this a good thing? Does this take the casual sex thing too far? Am I messing with my emotions? Well here's what I figure. If I'm feeling like I just need to be close to someone it's better to be with someone I know and trust rather than be with someone who I just met. Not that I would do that, but if it ever came to that, I go with the fuck buddy any day.