How do I drop the cute lawyer who seems to really like me?

So while Older Navy and I were in limbo I made the indiscretion of inviting the lawyer out to see a show with me. We were out together on what seemed to be a date. There was no hand holding, no kissing, no real touching but we were sitting awfully close together.

When I got back home from the night he sent me an IM saying “oh I forgot to tell you something…you look prettier every time I see you.” Ugh!

The fact is, even if Older Navy weren’t so deeply embedding into the picture, I would probably stick with the lawyer for a least a little bit. He has great taste in music, he’s a musician but he has a real job, he’s kind, a gentleman, and he really does seem to be a bit smitten. But I still don’t think he’d last too long. However, Older Navy IS in the picture and after a deep conversation last night, he is very much back in the picture and he will be the only picture I will be viewing for a little while.

So how do I do this? I’ve already told the lawyer once that I was seeing someone else and we had to cool it. And we did, and now I’ve invited him back in. How do I tell him “oops, just kidding about that?” How do you explain how you can be broken up with someone and then all of a sudden go back to being exclusive with him?

So I guess that brings me to last night. Older Navy called me at 12:30 anxious to talk about “us.’ He wanted to know what I was feeling about him and me. I told him in the most ambiguous way possible that I still really cared about him, I haven’t changed my mind about babies but I’m willing to take this journey with him for at least a little while. He thought this sounded like a good plan and reiterated to me that, if any time I felt like I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t want to have children, I should let him know and he and I could be friends…we’ll see about that one.

When I was down there this past weekend we had an amazing time recording. He told me he liked my work ethic and he had this great way of actually making me feel comfortable. I tend to get really self conscious about the studio and he just made me feel good and talented and very capable of making something great. It was fun. So I think, maybe this is what we’re meant to have together? Who needs babies when you can make music? No, I don’t really feel that way, but it’s a good solution for now.